成年人想過(guò)兒童節(jié)，早已不是什么新鮮事。根據(jù)《2024中國(guó)玩具和嬰童用品行業(yè)發(fā)展白皮書(shū)》，模型機(jī)甲、卡牌、手辦等面向成人的類目均有超過(guò)100%的增長(zhǎng)，尤其在去年兒童節(jié)期間，成年人成了這一領(lǐng)域的主角。兒童節(jié)成為了“過(guò)期兒童”們的狂歡”，為什么成年人如此熱衷于過(guò)兒童節(jié)？或許，可以在那些關(guān)于“童心”的名言里找到答案。
“常德不離，復(fù)歸于嬰兒。”——老子
老子在《道德經(jīng)》里提出，最高的德行是回歸嬰兒般的純粹狀態(tài)。嬰兒沒(méi)有算計(jì)，沒(méi)有虛偽，餓了就哭，開(kāi)心就笑。“復(fù)歸于嬰兒”，即找回生命最初的真誠(chéng)與自由。
現(xiàn)代人過(guò)兒童節(jié)，某種程度上也是在踐行老子的智慧——用一天時(shí)間，放下社會(huì)面具，允許自己像孩子一樣簡(jiǎn)單快樂(lè)。
“孩子在纖小的新月的世界里，是一切束縛都沒(méi)有的。”——泰戈?duì)?/p>
孩子之所以能肆無(wú)忌憚地奔跑、大笑、好奇地探索世界，是因?yàn)樗麄兩形幢簧鐣?huì)的規(guī)則馴化。他們的快樂(lè)是純粹的，不摻雜功利、焦慮或計(jì)算。
而成年人想過(guò)兒童節(jié)，某種程度上是在尋找這種“不受束縛的力量”。工作的疲憊、房貸的壓力、人際關(guān)系的復(fù)雜，讓很多人逐漸失去了“無(wú)理由快樂(lè)”的能力。于是，他們選擇在兒童節(jié)這一天短暫地“撒野”——那些在茶水間吹泡泡、下班直奔電玩城的白領(lǐng)們，不是在逃避成長(zhǎng)，而是在執(zhí)行生命的原始指令。
“人生就是大鬧一場(chǎng)，然后悄然離去。”——金庸
金庸的這句話，或許并非專指童年，但它意外地契合了成年人對(duì)“童真”的渴望。孩子可以毫無(wú)顧忌地“大鬧”——在泥坑里打滾、把樹(shù)枝當(dāng)?shù)秳Α６赡耆吮灰蟆绑w面”“穩(wěn)重”，連大笑都要斟酌場(chǎng)合。
于是，兒童節(jié)成了成年人“合法大鬧”的借口，有人組團(tuán)去游樂(lè)園坐旋轉(zhuǎn)木馬，有人在公司里組織“懷舊零食分享會(huì)”。這種“大鬧”，不是任性，而是對(duì)生命本真狀態(tài)的短暫回歸。
“所有的大人都曾經(jīng)是小孩，雖然只有少數(shù)人記得。”——《小王子》
圣-埃克蘇佩里的這句話，幾乎成了成年人過(guò)兒童節(jié)的最佳辯護(hù)詞。我們?cè)?jīng)都是孩子，只是后來(lái)被社會(huì)規(guī)訓(xùn)成了“合格的大人”。但總有一些時(shí)刻——比如看到彩虹、聽(tīng)到熟悉的動(dòng)畫(huà)主題曲、聞到小時(shí)候的糖果香——那個(gè)被遺忘的小孩會(huì)突然冒出來(lái)，美好的回憶涌上心頭。
兒童節(jié)，就是成年人集體“記起自己曾是小孩”的日子。
“孩子的眼光是直線的，不會(huì)轉(zhuǎn)彎。”——豐子愷
在成年人的世界里，我們習(xí)慣了迂回婉轉(zhuǎn)地表達(dá)，習(xí)慣了揣測(cè)他人的心思。而在兒童節(jié)，我們可以打破這種常規(guī)，像孩子一樣直白地表達(dá)自己的喜怒哀樂(lè)。和朋友相聚時(shí)，不再壓抑自己的情緒，開(kāi)心就放聲大笑，難過(guò)就盡情傾訴。
“從賣氣球的小販那里，每個(gè)孩子都帶走了一個(gè)心愿。”——北島
北島這句詩(shī)描繪了孩童時(shí)代最動(dòng)人的特質(zhì)——對(duì)世界充滿輕盈的期待。在這個(gè)腳步匆匆的世界里，保持童心，意味著拒絕被完全同化，意味著仍然好奇星空、愿意為一片好看的云停下腳步。成年人過(guò)兒童節(jié)，本質(zhì)上是一場(chǎng)“浪漫的抵抗”——抵抗無(wú)趣，抵抗麻木，那些被現(xiàn)實(shí)壓縮的夢(mèng)想、被規(guī)則束縛的浪漫，會(huì)在兒童節(jié)歡快的氛圍中短暫蘇醒。
引用這些名言，不是為了給“裝嫩”找借口，而是想證明：童心無(wú)關(guān)年齡，而是一種選擇。所以，今年的兒童節(jié)，不妨理直氣壯地過(guò)。因?yàn)槭刈o(hù)內(nèi)心那個(gè)小孩，本就是終身成長(zhǎng)的必修課。
It's no longer a novelty for adults to celebrate Children's Day. According to the “2024 China Toy and Child Product Industry Development White Paper,“ categories targeting adults, such as model mechs, cards, and garage kits, have all seen growth exceeding 100%. Particularly during last year's Children's Day, adults emerged as the main consumers in this sector. Children's Day has become a carnival for 'expired kids'—why are adults so eager to celebrate it? Perhaps the answer can be found in those aphorisms about “childlike innocence.“
“The simple child again, free from all stains.“ ——Laozi
Laozi proposed in the “Tao Te Ching“ that the highest virtue is to return to the pure state of a baby. Babies have no calculation, no hypocrisy; they cry when hungry and laugh when happy. “Returning to the state of a baby“ means regaining the authenticity and freedom of life at its inception.
Celebrating Children's Day is a way for modern people to embrace Laozi's wisdom by setting aside social facades and allowing themselves to be simple and happy like children.
“Baby was so free from every tie in the land of the tiny crescent moon.“ ——Tagore
Children can run, laugh, and explore the world with curiosity without restraint because they have not yet been domesticated by society's rules. Their happiness is pure, free from utilitarianism, anxiety, or calculation.
Adults who celebrate Children's Day are, to some extent, seeking this “unrestricted power.“ The fatigue of work, the pressure of mortgages, and the complexity of social relationships have caused many to lose the ability to be happy without reason. Therefore, they choose to “run wild“ on Children's Day—white-collar workers blowing bubbles in the break room or heading straight to the arcade after work are not escaping adulthood but following life's primal directives.
“Life is about making a big fuss and then quietly leaving.“ ——Jin Yong
Jin Yong's words, perhaps not specifically referring to childhood, unexpectedly resonate with adults' longing for “childlike innocence.“ Children can “make a big fuss“ without any reservations—rolling in the mud, using sticks as swords. Adults are always expected to be “dignified“ and “steady,“ even having to consider the occasion before laughing heartily.
Thus, Children's Day has become an excuse for adults to “l(fā)egally make a fuss,“ with some people going to amusement parks together to ride the carousel and others organizing “nostalgic snack sharing sessions“ at their companies. This “making a fuss“ is not willfulness but a brief return to the true state of life.
“All adults were once children, though few remember it.“ ——“The Little Prince“
Saint-Exupéry's words have almost become the best defense for adults celebrating Children's Day. We were all children once, but society has trained us into “qualified adults.“ Yet there are always moments—such as seeing a rainbow, hearing a familiar cartoon theme song, or smelling the candy from childhood—when that forgotten child suddenly emerges, flooding the heart with beautiful memories.
Children's Day is the day when adults collectively “remember that they were once children.“
“Children see straight, without detours.“ ——Feng Zikai
In the adult world, we are accustomed to expressing ourselves in a roundabout way and to guessing others' thoughts. But on Children's Day, we can break this mold. When gathering with friends, we can finally unleash our emotions—laughing freely when happy and pouring out our sorrows when sad.
“From the balloon vendor, every child takes away a wish.“ ——Bei Dao
Bei Dao's poem captures the most touching traits of childhood - a light - hearted anticipation for the world. In this fast-paced world, maintaining a childlike heart means still being curious about the stars and willing to stop for a beautiful cloud. Adults celebrating Children's Day is a “romantic resistance“ against dullness and numbness.The dreams of adults that have been compressed by reality and the romance bound by rules will briefly awaken in the joyful atmosphere of Children's Day.
Quoting these aphorisms is not to justify “acting young,“ but to demonstrate that innocence is not about age, but a choice. This June 1st, claim your right to celebrate. Because nurturing the child within is the ultimate adulting.
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文案：武瑋佳
設(shè)計(jì)：陳艷嬌